Are You Raising A Princess? Or A Woman?
Yes, she’ll always be your little princess. However, are you raising a young woman? There’s a difference. We’ve all met women who have held on to the “Princess Syndrome” too long. Somehow they grew up lacking independence or maturity in some of the most critical areas in life, love, money, and automotive maintenance.
Nonetheless, you can raise a strong, independent, resourceful daughter without crushing femininity. Financial independence is not only a source of confidence it also gives women the credibility to participate in important matters of decision making, for themselves and their families. Here are a few tips to help your princess gracefully transition into womanhood.
Make time with both parents. Strong parental figures and role models are important in helping girls learn about the more “masculine” areas of life, nonetheless, it also equips her to know what conduct and behavior to expect from a mate. If you are a single parent, you may need to be a little resourceful in finding a role model you trust. Reach out to the school guidance counselor, your church or local Boys and Girls Club.
The reverse side of that equation, even difficult at times, is getting rid of poor role models.
Encourage competition. No matter how big a princess she is at home, no one can compete with her in a dance recital or a boxing match. She will quickly learn with whatever activity she chooses that her effort alone is the basis of her success or failure. Allow her to take responsibility for whichever outcome.
Don’t come to the rescue too quickly. It’s tempting to want to take care of your little princess when she gets into minor trouble. Experiencing adversity is ok for a young woman. She will overcome it and grow from the experience.
Expect her to maintain her own car. There’s nothing wrong with helping a teenage girl buy a car that won’t leave her stranded and vulnerable. Her first car should be safe. Click here to view DOE/EPA’s Fuel Economy Guide before purchasing your new vehicle! However, it would benefit her to know how to drive a stick, change her own tire, check fluids, measure fluids and monitor tire pressure.
If you decide to buy a new car for your daughter, call the credit union to inquire about our rates before you finance a new car with a car dealer.
Encourage her to work. Financial education is critical. CSE offers financial literature to help them learn about money management. Start her with a youth saving and teen checking account from CSE. Educate her to be wise with her money while building her confidence.
Defer gratification.The goal is to raise a woman that’s able to navigate the world relatively independently as a young adult. Hopefully, that means she can choose a partner for the reason that she wants them in her life, not based on needing them. Then she will have a better class of suitors to choose from when the time comes.
Supporting girls to be financially independent is a key step towards independent and empowered women. Ask about a CSE youth saving or teen checking account call (337)477-2000 and speak with a representative today.